Breastfeeding as a trans dad: ‘A baby doesn’t know what your pronouns are’

It was in an idyllic Canadian mountain town, surrounded by jagged, imposing peaks, that the conflicting facets of Trevor MacDonald’s identity came crashing together.

MacDonald, soft-spoken and sporting a wispy goatee, was breastfeeding his first child at the time. He and his partner had splashed on a lavish dinner, baby in tow. When his son began fussing, MacDonald eyed the waitstaff and patrons wandering about in formal attire and thought it best to head to the restroom.

It was there, holding his fussing son, that he was struck by the incongruity of nursing a child in a men’s bathroom. “It was this weird scenario,” says MacDonald, who was born female and began transitioning some eight years ago.

  • NoPasaran

    In the “goodthink narrative” he/she is both the oppressor and the height of all virtuous victimhood.

    • Doubleplusgood!

      • Will Quest

        Madonna and child moment ……. priceless .

  • CodexCoder

    I hate to break it to “Transdad” but she still isn’t male. All of her DNA and biochemistry is still female and her brain wiring is also different. (Hence the ability to give birth and breast feed). You didn’t start out as male, and while you might try and look the part, you aren’t male and can never be male.

    • dance…dancetotheradio

      What about the hormones being passed to the baby?
      That is child abuse.

  • Drunk_by_Noon

    We need a single word for someone whom is creepy, weird, and defective.

    • Exile1981


      • Blacksmith


    • Will Quest

      ‘ Progressive ‘

  • LauraS

    “It was this weird scenario.”

    Sorry, ma’am. The scenario is weird because YOU are the one bringing the weird to the scenario. Women pretending to be men are weird. Women pretending to be men while breastfeeding children is super weird.

    We wouldn’t legitimize the world views of anorexics or schizophrenics (to name just two), so let’s stop treating these mentally ill freaks like they have a legitimate point.

  • Surele Surele


  • J. C.

    Times were better when we just locked these people away… 🙁

  • ed

    it`s partner wanted to help but the “straightjacket ” got in the way !

  • Etobicoke_Gladiator

    Pure mental illness, enabled by secularism and crazy leftist ideology. Creepy and weird. Ugh!

  • Raymond Hietapakka

    …where’s my eye bleach?

  • I feel like I’m living in Sodom and Gomorrah. And if I don’t get out soon, and if I ever look back, God Himself will turn me into the proverbial “pillar of salt”.

    How did we get here, folks? All of this has occurred (the worst of it) in less than five years. Sometime during the beginning of the second term of Obama it’s like a spiritual darkness has enveloped the West. And once it started it happened very rapidly and it picks up speed by the moment. I honestly can’t envision what it will be like five years into the future, because there may be no future. At least for the West.

    And there’s an important milestone in this process that is imminent: Brexit. Although it seems like a byline for many, I think the wrong choice for Britain will be earth-shaking, including for the United States.

    • Exile1981

      Brexit will set the tone of weither people can choose to keep their countries or if the open border types win.

      • It’s essentially a referendum on National sovereignty, and whether Western civilization will abandon recognition of the Sovereign Nation. The latter of which has been foundational to our civilization for almost 2,000 years. Even John of Patmos referred to it two millennia ago when the concept of Nationhood was scarcely in its infancy:

        “The leaves of the tree will be for the healing of the Nations”

        The latter of course gives reason for hope if you are a believer, but unfortunately the “healing of the Nations” was to occur after the rest of his horrific apocalyptic predictions occurred first.

        “Canada is the first non-Nation State in the world” (P.M. Justin Trudeau, 2015). I wonder who will be the second? And Trudeau may be wrong about that — the Islamic State (ISIS) may in fact be the first non-Nation State in the world, with Canada following a close second.

    • Waffle

      You’re gonna need that pillar of salt for those Margaritas 😉

      • Ha! Don’t think I’ve ever had a margarita — what’s in it? Although I noticed you capitalized it — hope you weren’t referring to chasing Latin American women when I get out of here. Not for this old dog!

        • Waffle

          Tequila, Triple Sec (or Cointreau), splash of lime juice and salt on the rim of the glass.

          • Now you did it — sounds like something I’d go nuts over. Big fan of Caesars (which I think are also known by that horrible moniker “Bloody Mary”). Caesars are supposed to be made with vodka but I often make it with rum.

            Triple sec. Is that some sort of dry white wine — just a wild guess.

          • Waffle

            Both Triple sec and Cointreau are clear, orange-flavoured liqueurs. I’ve never tried a Caesar or a Blood Mary with rum — sounds interesting though. Gotta go and pour myself another shot of my overproof with cranberry juice. This discussion is making me thirsty;)

          • canminuteman

            I’m getting thirsty.

          • Ahh. I think I’ve had Triple sec or Cointreau then — many years ago as an adolescent raided my buddy’s father’s liquor cabinet. He had everything in the Encylopedia there. Wait a minute I remember now — I think it was called “Orange Schnapps”. Probably not the same thing.

            Thirsty? — me too. Maybe we should stop, especially tempting of you haven’t “partook” in quite a while. Already checking the tires on my bicycle — lcbo only six blocks away…

          • Waffle

            Don’t know why I didn’t think of it before. If you like rum, you’ll probably fall in love with this:


          • Mojito. I’ve heard the name before (believe it or not these Latin-sounding foods and drinks are practically unknown in Latin America except in tourist areas). The sugar and mint? Too sweet-toothy for me.

            Anyway I’m puttin on my shoes and out the door and it’s your fault. Be back in 20, and it will be pure Cuervo.

          • Waffle

            Actually, not sweet — very refreshing and highly addictive. Hope you don’t get culture shock at the LCBO.

          • No culture shock, but I think the Government was trying to pick my pocket. Cuervo was about $38 bucks! So I went with cheaper Sauza — $17.95 a mickie.

            Picked up fresh lime, and Mediterranean sea salt to do it up right. I’ll stick a pizza in the oven later and I get to enjoy the two most important cultural influences of my palate: Italy and Latin America.

          • Waffle

            Not trying. Actual blatant, shameless theft. How much was the Cuervo before? They are so shameless they rub our noses in it with paid advertising!!! In a monopoly, who else are you going to buy from? And then there are the “consultants” who distribute thimblefuls of cheap foreign plonk. I’d love to know what these little know-nothings are being paid. The whole thing is insidious. They drive us to drink and them rape us. Feh!

          • Tequila has always been expensive since a big jump in price a number of years ago (something to do with the agave harvest in Mexico — but the price never went back to normal).

            But I’m sure LCBO tacks on plenty on top of the already inflated price. Honestly can’t remember what it’s supposed to be normally or what it last was — I pick up a bottle maybe once or twice a year.

          • Waffle
          • The Cuervo Especial is what they had at lcbo for about $38. So that’s at least a $3 dollar difference (750 ml). Crooks.

          • Waffle

            Check out the Alberta prices.

          • Waffle
          • That’s insane. I think all you’re paying for is the fancy-crafted bottle. Cuervo is still the gold standard original.

            I still remember their commercial from 40 years ago:
            “No hay cuervo que no sea negro; y no hay tequila que no sea Cuervo”

            Sounds kinda dumb in translation but for what it’s worth:
            “There isn’t a crow that isn’t black; and there isn’t a tequila that isn’t Crow”

          • Alain

            Lovely drink.

    • dance…dancetotheradio

      Good morning Sodom and Gomorrah.
      Good morning sinners.
      No, that wasn’t your radio on the blink again.

      • Must be the 80’s. I was probably in a jungle somewhere.

        Am I hallucinating or does the singer actually have his teeth filed into fangs?

        • dance…dancetotheradio

          That’s Mick Jones.
          He’s also a former member of the Clash and his mother was a Russian Jew.
          He’s just got English teeth is all.
          And I’d love to have a beer with him.

          • I like the tune. I missed the ’80’s and the whole punk rock thing, but it seems like it was sort of a “breakout” era.

          • dance…dancetotheradio

            Well, there certainly isn’t much out there now.
            I think the last two records I got were the first Ting Tings album that my kids bought me for my birthday a few years ago and the album Plastic Beach by the Gorillaz.

    • Alain

      In the same vein if I may, people sometimes refer to Karma without fully understanding it. I would like to point out that while there is individual Karma, there is also family and national Karma. It all works the same way just on different levels. Not trying to convert or change anyone’s religion, but I thought it worth mentioning.

  • Just eeeyewww! Has it had a penile implant yet? ‘Cause its against my religion to mix milk and meat.

  • Waffle

    There’s this thing developing with breastfeeding as we regress further and further emotionally and pass on this regression to our children. To be a baby, suckling at the breast, seems to be the ultimate experience regardless of how old the “baby” or what gender the parent. In a rapidly changing universe, there is something supremely comforting and soothing (for both feeder and feedee) in this primal behaviour.

  • Peter Wales

    She is just a confused female. That’s all.

  • Spatchcocked

    I wonder what the WTC hijackers drank when they were out boozing and whoring before the fatal day….

    • mauser 98

      devout pious muslims
      Vegas regulars
      Miami Pink Pony club

      • That’s the problem. I used to drink with a Muslim occasionally In my hometown. But he would feel so guilty about it he could hardly live with himself — or with anybody else. Often picked fights in the bar.

        I think after a while after so much “sin” has accumulated Muslims feel the need to “wipe the slate clean” with some sort of outrageous act of fidelity to Allah. Maybe terrorism?

        • mauser 98

          yes.. proably why they cover women up..if i can’t have fun neither can you