The Pains of Hijacking the Muslim American Narrative

A few years ago, my beloved child was kidnapped by a cult, which made a monster out of innocence. I was deprived from mourning this loss, showing off cute childhood pictures and flaunting my love. I did not dare express my tears in bright sunlight, and could not wait to hide an erupting volcano of tears in the darkness of the night.

Everyone blamed me, from pediatricians to teachers for raising a monster. All around me, stares spoke paragraphs of blame: there must have been parental neglect, passing of some corrupted genes, perhaps even purchasing toys with the wrong themes. On top of imprisoning my tears so I am not ever caught mourning, I was chained by enormous guilt.

This is how I feel about ISIS and the like, they kidnapped the perception of the Muslim-American identity, its narrative, and Muslims at large have been mourning since!

Muslim-Americans have been suffering in silence without the courage to admit to others that our psyches have been bleeding, because we have been busy apologizing for crimes we have not committed. I am writing this article because, the bleeding has soaked the thickest bandages, and it became impossible to conceal our pains…


The writer appear to be a Muslim called Marwa Azab (bio here). As a parent, I am sympathetic to her. Children turn out the way they do based almost 100% on a combination of genetic inheritance and their surrounding culture (peer groups, schools, etc), with about a 50/50 split. Detailed studies of identical twins adopted at birth to different families show that — apart from gross negligence — the parenting style is almost irrelevant.*

Still, there is the cultural part. And this child may have been brought in the culture of Islam, that in my opinion, is a cult itself.  (Of course, the parents might even be atheists, so I obviously cannot say for sure).

As for the whining about Islam part, all I can say is that people having plenty of reason to worry about Islam.  She needs to ask herself why other religions are not treated the same way.  Who cares much about Buddhists, Zoroastrians, Hindus, Sikhs?  Not very many — I for one am prepared to take a live and let live attitude towards these believers.  Islam is a whole different story.  


*If you disagree with me, read these two books and then back and argue about it. Otherwise I am not interested in your uninformed opinion so don’t bother leaving comments. The concept that parents determine how children turn out came from Sigmund Freud, and he was not basing his opinions on scientific research but just sort of making stuff up. He has now been completely discredited.

The Nurture Assumption: Why Children Turn Out the Way They Do (Judith Rich Harris)

The Blank Slate (Steven Pinker)

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  • winniec

    Islam should obviously be criticized, since it is the mother lode of bad ideas:

    1 No Golden Rule 2 No free speech 3 No democracy 4 Jihad – holy war of supremacism 5 Honour killings 6 Taqiyya – sacred lying 7 Taqlid – group think 8 Misogyny – repression of women 9 Rape of kafirs as jihad prizes 10 Genocide 11 Ethnic cleansing 12 Al-Walaa wal-Baraa – Islamic apartheid 13 Torture 14 Plundering 15 Cruel and unusual punishments 16 Backwardness – stagnation 17 Violence against women 18 Slavery 19 Discriminatory Sharia law 20 Hatred of the arts 21 Pedophilia disguised as child marriage 22 Fifty generations of cousin marriage and genetic defects 23 Cruelty to animals 24 Extortion tax to humiliate disbelievers

  • winniec

    This writer says: “This is how I feel about ISIS and the like, they kidnapped the perception of the Muslim-American identity, its narrative, and Muslims at large have been mourning since!”
    Have they been mourning? Or have they been more aware of and disgusted by what Islam actually teaches? If they have not thought things over, they are shallow, lazy or psychopathic. None of those are good things to be.

    Because of the revelation of authentic jihad by ISIS, Muslims must do some soul-searching or risk being considered savages. No more free ride and lack of suspicion.

    Muslims are in a bind! The doctrine of TAQIYYA means no Muslim can ever be trusted not to be a jihadist.

  • chayisun

    “Muslim-Americans have been suffering in silence without the courage to admit to others that our psyches have been bleeding, because we have been busy apologizing for crimes we have not committed.”……..

    Busy apologizing for crimes we have NOT YET committed might be better. The muslim identity seems to have been identified since the 7th century with violence and this isis group of sick individuals are now following the koran to the letter, apparently…. Although the “moderate” muslims disagree. They don’t protest in numbers the way they do about cartoons as the murderous rampage goes on under the banner of islam.

    Nobody fears the Jews, Christians, Buddhists or other religious groups who have no intention of forcing their beliefs on anyone. Certainly NOT through bloodshed and murder. Only one “religious” cult will do that.

    So spare me the crocodile tears.

  • Until the Muslim community shows a willingness to clean its own house instead of complaining and wondering why there is distrust from the larger populace, articles like this will be met with either indifference or disbelief.

  • ntt1

    until muslims remove and denounce the violent suras from the Koran, there is no way to tell who is who, for now I will just assume all muslims are violent retards who are following the “holy ” Koran to the letter, in its entirety.

  • Islamic theology is the problem. It is simply toxic – one person at a time. At some point in time the number of toxic believers is high enough to reach critical mass and you have a murderous Islamic society.

    Here is an Islamic head game.

    Imagine a peaceful society. Add Islam. What do you get? An Islamic society, with all the typical Islamic wacko crap.

    This is what happened to Afghanistan. It use to be a peaceful Buddhist/Hindu part of greater India. Islam came along and bingo – you got an Islamic hell hole.

    Islam is a game changer. It is toxic. “Theological” documents that incite devout followers to commit violence if allowed to be taught, will find devout believers to be incited into committing violence.

    Islamic theology has to be changed. If there is no change in Islamic theology there will be no change in the some total of what we see as (the problem of) Islam.

  • I think the notion that Freud invented the idea that upbringing “determine(s) how children come out” would have been news to, say, Plato.